Kas Winters

Simplify Parenting


Kas Winters
Mother of Family Ideas

Simplify Parenting
Use ideas that take little money or time and develop a child’s creativity.

by Kas Winters, The Mother of Family Ideas™

It seems to me that the media tells us that we “need” to spend lots of money to keep our children from being bored; and yet the “bored” word is used constantly by kids. The truth is, children who have the opportunity to the enjoy natural excitement, curiosity, and wonder that should be part of childhood, are rarely bored. They have more fun, self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-reliance than children who don’t get the opportunity to try things, experiment, make mistakes, and learn from them.

Despite what we’ve been told, happiness does not come from watching television shows which promote negative things on many levels. It doesn’t abound in overdone video game play, complicated toys that take the imagination out of playtime, or classes and events which dictate exactly how something is to be done with no room for personal creativity. Happiness comes from little things: learning how to tie your shoes, using a key to open a lock for the first time, baking a cake and frosting it yourself, making your own breakfast even if you spill a little milk, and making your own invention or craft without following someone else’s directions. These seemingly small steps teach children that they are capable. Feeling good about yourself is fun–the kind of fun that you remember and want to repeat.

When children have the opportunity to learn new skills, try their hand at making things using their ideas, and discover information a consistent basis—they feel good about themselves. When a parent or caring adult fosters the process and gets involved without directing the play, relationships are built. Trust and love flow back and forth and a child can feel secure. Time spent with children is great even when it comes in small packages. Take time to show and tell possibilities, to provide materials, to watch, to congratulate successes, and encourage when things don’t go as planned. A child who learns to simply look for other options instead of feeling defeated when things don’t work will have a step-up in dealing with disappointments in life. When a child experiences achieving their own goals–even small ones–the overall positive impact is much more than playing with an expensive toy, or taking a costly vacation.

Use materials that encourage your child or children to use their imaginations and create a little of their own reality. Allow them ask their own questions and discover answers through trial and error. That costs little or nothing. Spend some time, even just minutes, giving them your direct attention, in small ways, and frequently. Notice what they are doing. Ask about their activities or projects. Listen to them. It doesn’t take a lot of a parent’s time, but it lets children know that they are valued and loved.

Seeing results of your own plans and ideas is priceless at any age.

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Kas Winters, “Mother of Family Ideas”

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